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Mending a Broken Heart

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There is trauma for those who end the relationship as well as those who are rejected. There are guilt feelings, wondering whether you’re doing the right thing, and trying to do it without much fuss.

Breaking up, as the song says, is hard to do. Things can get out of hand, quarrels can hasten the split, or a partner simply refuses to see the writing on the wall. Finishing a relationship on a bad note, however, leaves both partners feeling uneasy. Always try to talk things out first. Some people can take years to recover from a broken heart, but once you have got over the initial distress you will find that your feelings of anger, bitterness and even hatred will subside. Once you have understood the inevitability of the break-up, you are on the road to recovery.

Believe that time can and does heal a broken heart. The day you can meet the heart-breaker without having that racing pulse, you’ll know that your heart has truly mended.

Broken-hearted Person Tendencies:

1) Feelings of sudden sadness and tearfulness
2) Continuous irritability or anger
3) Anxiety, tension, feeling on-edge or keyed-up
4) Feelings of hopelessness or helplessness
5) Less interest in activities with friends, work and hobbies
6) Lack of energy, fatigue, tired most of the time
7) Difficulty in concentration
8) Change in appetite, overeating or craving for specific food
9) Difficulty in sleeping, over-sleeping or insomnia
10) Physical symptoms such as headaches, joint or muscle aches, a sense of being bloated

Guidelines for Broken-hearted Person:

Broken-hearted person tends to be swayed by feeling of frustration, hopelessness and self-pity. Help yourself by following these guidelines:

1) Don’t avoid socializing. You need the support of friends to get over the crisis.
2) Be positive. Don’t relive the past, and remember that there were good reasons for the break-up.
3) Make sure that all the friends around you are positive. You don’t need negativity dragging you down.
4) Give yourself a treat. Have a beauty make-over, a new hairstyle, sorting a new clothes.
5) Spring-clean your home or change the furniture around so that you are no longer living in a temple to your lost lover.
6) Remember what was pleasant in your love affair and avoid bitterness creeping in.
7) If you feel angry, write down why and try to flush out negative feelings.
8) Take up new interests. Do all the things that you always meant to do.
9) Don’t go out with any man/woman just because you want company.
10) Don’t be inhibited because you are single – enjoy it.
11) Give yourself a break before starting off on another relationship, or you could head for a repeat performance.
12) Broken hearts mend – but not overnight. Don’t be surprised if it takes a few months for yours to heal.
13) Be happy with your new life, start what’s motivate you to go on.
14) Keep your past as an experience while moving ahead.
15) Keep your faith in HIM, where happiness resides within you as you go along your new and beautiful life.

Believe that time can and does heal a broken heart. The day you can meet the heart-breaker without having that racing pulse, you’ll know that your heart has truly mended.


Guides on How to be a Winner

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Winning is the result of one’s determined motivated goals to be executed with intensifying training and hardwork.

1.Winners take chances. Like everyone else, they fear failing, but they refuse to let fear control them.

2.Winners don’t give up. When life gets rough, they hang in there until the going gets better.

3.Winners are flexible. They realize there’s more than one way and are willing to try others.

4.Winners know they are not perfect. They respect their weaknesses while making the most of their strengths

5.Winners fall but they don’t stay down. They stubbornly refuse to let a fall keep them from climbing.

6. Winners don’t blame fate for their failures nor luck for their successes.

7.Winners accept responsibility for their lives.

8.Winners are positive thinkers. They seek well in all things. Of the ordinary, they make the extraordinary.

9.Winners believe in the path they have chosen even when it’s hard, even when others can’t see where they’re going.

10.Winners are patient. They know a goal is only worthy of the effort that’s required to achieve it.

11.Winners are people like you, who make the world a better place to be.

What Makes a Man, a Man?

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Man has a physical structure similar to other living creatures on earth such as plants and animals. He is a terribly complex being, the apex of the process of evolution. He is subject to pain and diseases and at the same time able to seek and enjoy comfort and convenience. The body becomes the source of needs, desires and urges that motivate him and make a demand on him. The five senses of his body become the means by which he experiences the world and the vehicle for his own expression.

Man is capable of conceptual thought, which distinguishes him from other creatures on earth. His mind has the power to stand out of himself and become the object of his own reflections. The power of his mind has enabled man to become the object of his own reflections. The power of his mind has enabled man to become reoccupied not only with the nurturance and sustenance of his body but with the more creative activities that demand thinking and conceptualizing as well.

A person may emphasize the cognitive and approach life as an intellectual matter that provides reasons for everything. This can be frustrating for there will be times when the heart has reasons which reason does not know. However, one who approaches life with so much emphasis on feelings stands the frustrations of being hurt so often. Also, who emphasizes action can get into trouble for certain actions that do not have a rational basis. This happens when actions do not pass through the process of conceptual thought.

Man likewise experiences the presence of a spirit in him. It is the spirit that animates his whole existence and gives meaning to his activities. His spirit tries to grasp a reality that is not palpable to the body. His spirit expresses itself through his body. His spirit is capable of hoping when the mind is frustrated; believing when the mind dounts; loving when the mind would rather hate. Take away mans spirit and he is dead figuratively or literally.

We see persons differing from one another though possessing certain common traits. An individual possesses certain capacities, potentialities and limitations. The coincidence of these qualities in a person in a way that is different from the rest of mankind is what makes him unique. Every man is a new beginning, the realization of a past hope, the joy of the present and the promise of an abundant future. His uniqueness is what makes him important and indispensable. It is his uniqueness that makes him valuable.

At the same time, a person is a being existing in relationship with other beings. His relationship with others accentuates his uniqueness and significance. He meets his needs as a child through the help of others. He grows in the very expression of himself with the help of others. He needs others to deepen and broaden his persectives. He is able to restructure society only in cooperation with others. His personality is affected by his relationship with others.

Every created thing has a purpose for being. A glass is made for drinking. The plants and trees exist to provide nourishment, shade, beauty and ecological balance. What then, is man’s purpose for being? What is his reason for existence?

Man acquires a purpose for his existence by continually creating, liberating and realizing himself and his environment. Eventually, his purpose acquires a sense of mission as he engages himself with other men in the cooperative task of continuing the work of creation to make life more meaningful, to purify life of what vitiates it and to bring life to its realization. This mission in life becomes the continuous task of creating opportunities that will enable persons to have more, know more and be more liberating persons from structures that inhibit their fullest development as persons, and of the constant transformation of social structures that will enable persons to realize their potentialities to the fullest.

It is when man lives this three-fold mission of creating, liberating and realizing that life becomes impregnated with meaning. It is man purpose in life that creates history. He has the capacity to learn from the past experiences, plan and make the resent viable for the strong thrust towards the future that he wants to forge.

Man likes to think of himself as being born free. We even sing a song celebrating man’s freedom. Freedom to be or not to be is one of our basic human rights. It is God-given right, a right to be respected by man and treated as sacred because it comes from God.

Man has certain “givens” that confines him. He is born of a certain time and place, race, color, parentage and physical make-up that he had no choice about. The acceptance and appreciation of the “givens” is of itself a freedom.

As a social being, man experiences limitations of his freedom. He is free to bring his potentialities to their fullest realization. However, he is free only in so far as his exercise of freedom does not encroach on another’s freedom. The economic and political situations in his particular milieu impose certain un-freedom on him. He experiences a further limitation of his freedom by the norms, values and mores of his culture. His engagement in the process of restructuring the norms, values and mores of his culture to render it more potent in developing person is of itself an act of freedom.

In freedom, a person accepts and appreciates all the given’s of life. His happiness depends partly on his exercise of freedom. Life offers him an abundance of opportunities. These are availed of through his exercise of freedom. Some opportunities may not be availed of due to some “givens” of life and the very choices that a person makes. One choice may pave the way for other opportunities or exclude other opportunities that are equally as good. A person will do well then to ask himself just what he wants out of life. It is a question that is asked, not just once but many, many times in one’s lifetime. It is a question one may use to assess what has gone before in one’s life as well as what possibilities one will open oneself to in the future. It is a question that gives direction to one’s life. A person who makes his choice within the limits of his potentials is able to experience the happiness of realizing his dreams, his expectations of life. On the other hand, the person whose choices are beyond what his potentials can sustain will experience the disappointment of frustrated dreams and aspirations. But what are the limits of one’s potentials? Even those limits will have to be tested in freedom.

While freedom gives man the right of choice, he, as a social being, has the obligation to make his exercise of freedom responsible. A person is responsible whenever he is able to answer for his choices and the consequences of such choices. He is responsible when he is able to accept the limitations of his freedom. He is responsible when he is able to respond to others’ exercise of freedom.